New York Magazine focused on the experience of interracial couples watching the film together. These inequalities do not simply go away when people start dating people from other races.
Dating outside your racial identity presents you with an opportunity to engage with and learn about difference. Order by newest oldest recommendations. Show 25 25 50 All. Throwing a black character into a television show does not create diversity or multiculturalism. In order to find understanding, we must be clued in to the experiences of people of color. For me, that meant films, books, history courses, direct interaction and becoming part of a new community.
I always knew that our family existed outside of the typical American experience because we lived in poverty, so it made sense to discover that Latinos, African Americans and other races were also segregated by society.
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The sad part is that this de facto segregation is what prevents us from proceeding as a fully inclusive society that equally regards all individuals. For me, this practice is the main element that prevents understanding and acceptance of those who are different from ourselves. I believe multiculturalism is the answer. A multitude of cultures, living in close quarters with each other and learning to accept and appreciate their differences and similarities. This should be our goal as interracial couples. For Brand Partnerships, click here.
Ethnic minorities are discriminated against but, yet, they in turn will discriminate against others. The Asian community which I belong to discriminates against white women. I know exactly what you meant by the term 'good' white girl. The discrimination is particularly strong against women by mothers of sons.
My husband has also been discriminated against by other Latinos…and often times that hurts even worse because you expect and hope that they can relate to you. Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing.
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LikeBe the first to like this post. I'm really sorry about the difficulties you have to face with your families and your husband's work. I live in Cancun, Mexico and I am a white gringa, my husband is of mixed race and is from Cuba. Our son is well, a little bit of everything! We have our problems like everyone else, but I feel so fortunate to say that we haven't had any racial problems from either family, nor work discrimination, etc.
Your post makes me wonder what we might face if we lived in the US.
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Kristin, I'm so jealous! I can't even imagine what beautiful beaches they must have there! My husband and I want to go cave diving someday. I'm so glad that you haven't had to go through all the craziness with family and in-laws. It can be sooo horrible! We've been out of state now for almost three years and I have to say, it was the best choice we ever made.
We do miss our families a lot and especially my daughter's cousins, but leaving the drama behind has granted us so much peace in our lives. Thank you so much for this post. I can't tell you enough how much this particular excerpt stood out for me. I'm glad I found your blog, sometimes I feel hopeless like nothing will ever change.
LikeBe the first to like this. Dear Chantilly, I once were in a relationship with a white midwest American girl. When she visited Mexico my family made sure she felt welcome and so did her family when I visited them, it was really nice. She fell in love with Mexico and her incorrect preconceptions about Mexico and Mexicans changed when she spent some time here. Mexicans living in Mexico are extremely different than Mexican immigrants living in the US, for a number of reasons.
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By the way, just a thought: In fact, it's encouraged. The idea that a person of color who dates a white person is harboring some kind of self-hatred is a far too simplistic one. Of course, there are instances where issues of self-acceptance may be at play, but this is not a hard and fast rule.
No, black men and women who date or marry white partners especially after being with black people in the past are not necessarily doing so for status or validation. There are a lot of reasons why people are attracted to other people. If a black person dates someone outside of their race, their "blackness" -- and how they feel about it -- should not automatically be called into question.
At the end of the day, interracial dating doesn't always have to be a big deal. Which is to say, questions like "What will your parents think? Projecting expectations about what individual couples experience rather than allowing them to show and tell does nothing to move the conversation forward.
These couples are revolutionary by simply just being. Let interracial couples decide what being in an interracial relationship means to them. The beauty in interracial relationships, and all relationships in general, is the opportunity to learn and grow from someone who might come from a different background and a different perspective for you.
The colorblind approach of not seeing a partner's race and understanding how that affects the way they navigate in a relationship isn't the right way to go about it.